Throwwwwaway29
Throwwwwaway29 is a throw away Reddit account that made a post to /r/relationships in 2014.[1] The text of the post is reproduced below. The post went viral being widely reported on by the mainstream media. Public opinion was divided as to the nature of her husband's actions and her response.
Original post by throwwwwaway29:
TL;DR - My husband [M26] sent a rude, argumentative email as I [F26] was on the way to the airport for a 10-day work trip. It's been 24hrs and he has responded to any of my texts or calls.
My husband [M26] and I [F26] have been together for 5 years, married for 2 of those years. We just bought a house 5 months ago. No kids yet. Our lives have been crazy busy though. We spent all spring renovating our new house. At my job I was given nearly double my usual workload after some of my colleagues were laid off. I gained some weight in the winter and have been busting my ass at the gym to get rid of it.
Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. He's never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it's a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won't miss me for the 10 days I'm gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my "excuses", using verbatim quotes of why I didn't feel like having sex at that very moment. According to his 'document', we've only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 "attempts" on his part.
This is a side of him I have never seen before - bitter, immature, full of hatred. In person, he'd been acting normal the whole time, maybe a little standoff-ish in the last week. Completely out of left field. Our sex life HAS tapered in the last few months, but isn't that allowed? We are adults leading busy, stressful lives. I cook for him, I do his laundry, I keep our house clean and tidy. It's not like our sex life was going to be this way FOREVER, it was a temporary slow-down due to extenuating circumstances.
I immediately tried phoning him 3-4 times before getting on the plane - no answer. When I landed in my destination city, I tried calling 2 more times - no answer. I texted him saying we needed to talk, and he needed to call me at his earliest convenience. No response. He's never intentionally ignored my communications before. I pretty much stayed inside my hotel all evening waiting by the phone, then cried myself to sleep.
It's now morning and he still hasn't contacted me. I am supposed to be out visiting clients for the next 9 days on behalf of my company, and I am an emotional wreck. Why is he putting me through this? What the hell am I supposed to do? [2]
An alleged copy of the spreadsheet has circulated online.[3]
A marriage is generally considered to be sexless if the couple have sex less than 10 times per year.[4] As such throwwwwaway29's marriage was likely sexless or soon to become sexless.
No further information was posted by Throwwwwaway29 and the post was subsequently locked by the moderators. As such it is not publicly known how or if Throwwwwaway29 and her husband resolved their marital difficulties.