Everyone's Invited

"Had a male teacher measure my skirt with a ruler up my inner leg to see if it was to short

As well as numerous times boys hiding your belongs down there trousers and focusing you to feel them up.

They would wank off in class or just expose them self to you"

- St Benedict’s

"I had recently started seeing a boy at eton. I really liked him but wanted to take my time before we had sex (I was a virgin). He was very respectful and never pressured me. I later found out that his friends at eton had told him he had to sleep with me before a certain date or break up with me. He waited until I was ready but his friends had decided i was ‘waiting too long’ and I was too frigid."

- Putney High School

"I was just starting secondary school at this point and I remember very well the lunch queues at school were horribly huge to the point that teachers had no control of this huge school pushing in this line for a whole hour. It was a fun experience to say the least but what went on during these pushes is awfully weird to think about. It was normally for boys of any age group to grope the asses and breasts of any girl student. As people were being thrown left right and centre of these queues it looked like a good enough excuse to do stuff like this. It was completely normalized until I got into around year 10 and this no longer happened to me personally but in fact now I was witnessing it. Young year 7 or 8 students being touched up under their skirt by year 10 students is something I’ll never get my head around. To know they felt a power over these young girls (and myself) is something I don’t like to even remotely think about let alone talk about."

- JFS

"A guy in my class at school used to text me after lessons saying that he got hard watching me working. He also graphically sexted me completely unsolicited and then would completely ignore me around school- when I told people about it they’d just shrug it off as ‘he’s just like that with girls’’"

- Westminster

"My ex raped me and when I went to the safeguarding at my school to help with him following me and making me extremely uncomfortable they did nothing to help as I didn’t file a police report. On top of this they never followed up and checked in. So, when I stopped going into school and I stopped doing my work as a result of what I was going through I was told off instead of being offered support."

- Queen Elizabeth’s Crediton

"I had just turned 16 and went to a party that my friend was having, it was outside and people were going to camp there afterwards. I got really drunk and when the night was winding down I looked around and there was the boy I fancied sat next to me. He asked me to go for a walk, I knew that meant he wanted to kiss me and I went, I remember I couldn’t hold myself to stand up and kept having to lean on him for support. He insisted we went outside the party to the road, we walked along the road until he decided he wanted us to lie on grass next to the road (away from my friends at the party), and started to take off my clothes. I remember saying stop because I was practically naked on a road and felt very uncomfortable, but after he forced oral sex upon me while I was lying down I saw him putting on a condom. I was a virgin and was terrified. Luckily I saw a torch and some friends were looking for me, he wouldn’t let me get dressed and was trying to move forward until I promised we would do it when we got back. The whole walk back was fear. And as soon as we got back he lead me into a tent and the same thing happened only this time I felt it was easier to not fight since I’d promised him before. I was not wet at all and the pain was so intense, the whole time I turned my head and tears were streaming down my face but not once did he stop, slow down or ask if I was alright. I told my friends it was fun and consensual because I couldn’t admit what had just happened, it was my first time, and everyone was friends with him. I couldn’t have sex for a year afterwards. I have finally admitted that it was assault"

- University of Edinburgh

If we assume this is true then we must conclude that this young women needs to have understood that a promise made under coercion is no promise at all. Feminist would call this victim blaming but it is in fact her education that is deficient.

"I was getting with this guy but was being clear that a get off was all it was gonna be. I'm Christian for a start and also just don't have sex with people I'm not in a relationship with. He still pulled my pants down and went for it anyway but despite being drunk I was lucid enough to throw him off. He kept trying it all night despite me saying no, but I was ashamed for saying no because I thought he'd tell people I was no fun. I asked him to leave my room and he wouldn't, he took up all the space in my single and I was terrified of touching him with my body all night because I thought he'd think I was going for it."

- Ibstock Place School

- Hampton

"After rowing training when I was in year 9, a boy in my year and I were waiting to be picked up by our parents when he challenged me to a game of 'would you rather.' he ended up fingering me, which was my first sexual encounter beyond kissing anyone at this point in time. I told one person, but by the following day the news had spread across my year group. Of course, the boy denied it. He was very popular, whereas I was the polar opposite. Because of this, I was accused of lying and had girls in my year pressuring me for answers and laughing because they believed him. I remember locking myself in the swimming changing room toilets and wretching as I had people asking me questions from the other side of the door. In the end I denied it happening because it felt easier to be branded a liar and have it swept under the rug, rather than come forward with the truth. The incident happened nearly 10 years ago but it still haunts me to this day."

- Latymer Upper School

A boy denied a sexual encounter? That would be the opposite of rape culture.