Men turn down sex as much as women do in long term relationships

https://www.babyboomers.com/article/study-finds-men-turn-down-sex-as-much-as-women-do/5afb2e1ae4b073fac52967b1

This study is arguing men turn down sex with their partner as often as women do. If men are more concerned about the consequences of turning down women in a relationship than the reverse then men probably engage in "service sex" more often than women do.[1] That would imply men's true desire for sex in a long term relationship is actually lower than women's, over the entire population. Women are seen to complain a lot about their male partners wanting sex, whereas women who are sex-starved appear to remain quiet about it. Men of course tend not to talk about sex. Could women who claim about their male partners wanting sex actually be virtue signalling?

[1] I suspect the idea that men are more likely than women to engage in service sex may well be true.

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